Everything you describe is really independent of Ajax, and I'd be surprised if any Ajax book went into details on those subjects. Some are general HTTP topics that are not specific to Ajax, and most of those are very dependent on what technology you are using on the server. If Java, I'd expect those topics to be covered in a book on
J2EE or
servlets, if PHP, a book on PHP and so on.
There are some specialized books on Ajax with a particular server-side technology (I know there's on an Ajax with PHP), but I haven't been impressed with them.