Sow,
I'm glad you found us. Being new to the site, now is a perfect time for you to start exploring some of the excellent resources available here at the Ranch.
For example, you might guess that you're not the first one to ask such questions - try using the Search tool (above) to instantly scour this forum for loads of useful information.
Also, if you're after a good book, try checking out
The Bunkhouse, where we have loads of reviews on the books that are out there waiting for you.
There are also some great links right at the top of this forum, including an FAQ (which sounds like it would be right up your alley) and the SCJP TipLine.
Don't miss out on the
JavaRanch Journal, either. There should be a new edition out shortly.
I hope you enjoy it here.