That you're using the .htaccess file tells me that you're probably using Apache HTTPD as your webserver. If so, there are some extra configuration issues that need to be dealt with. Without a lot of information from you it would be hard for anyone on a forum to help you. Your claim: "I don't know enough about JSP to even give the right questions" suggests that you're probably using hosted space. Setting up the connector is not a trivial task for a beginner.
If this is so, the best people to ask would be the hosting company. They may have a specific hierarchy for files. [ February 21, 2006: Message edited by: Ben Souther ]