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Feedback requested from women developers

 
Mona Mehta
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Hi,

I would like to request and get some feedback from women developers as it is an issue which mostly is faced by women. I had a baby 3 months back and am back to work after my maternity leave. I am really depressed about leaving my baby and really wish that I could be with my son. I am going to try asking for part-time or telecommuting options, but have little hope that I will get that. I am seriously thinking of quitting my job and taking a year's break. To give you an idea of my background : I have 8+ years of software development experience in the U.S. industry and currently work in the US.
My question is : have you any of done this and what was your experience ? Was it hard to get back into the workforce ? My biggest fear is that because it is the software industry, will I find another job if I quit now ?

Thanks,
Mona
 
Manish Hatwalne
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Not a woman, but adding my feedback nevertheless. Stay with your baby, most HR are supportive in this case.

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K Riaz
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Not a women either, but you should speak to your employer about some sort of an arrangement. You are not the first person to have this problem, and certainly won't be the last.

P.S. If your employer is uncompromising, do the American thing and sue them
 
kayal cox
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Not being a Mom, I can't suggest what you should do, because I am not able to predict how I will react..

I ahve friends who have decided either ways.
The ones who decided to quit and stay back, had some minor hiccups getting back into workforce. They probably spent about a month or two resharpening their skills / learning new stuff / reestablishing contacts. They felt the time off was worth it.

Those who decided to get back to work, were happy with their decision too because the money really came in handy, and they weren't worried about losing their job status. They tried to arrange work timing with their husbands such that atleast one parent stayed with the baby for most of the time.

Good luck with what you decide, but try not beat yourself too much about it. Avoid getting on a guilt trip, and you will find that you are okay one way or the other years from now.
[ May 24, 2005: Message edited by: kayal cox ]
 
Prema Chakravarthy
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I am not a mom but considering it at this time.

My plan is to take 3 months off and then have my parents live with me for a year. My dad is retired anyway so, hopefully it will all work out. My husband is American and his folks live in CO. So, another consideration is to move closer to them so his mom can help us out. I definitely don't want to do it all by ourselves.
 
Suman Sarker
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A bit off-topic but cannot help it.
Originally posted by Kashif Riaz:
P.S. If your employer is uncompromising, do the American thing and sue them

A recently published survey result shows how US ranks when it comes to maternity leave and attaining the benefits related to maternity leave.

Check this out.

P.S. I am not a female developer.
 
Reshma Shah
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I am not a mom either, but have seen colleagues who after having the baby, work from home and visit the office once a week or so

with technology progressing so much working from home is not a prb at all and the HR are very co operative..else as someone said..do the sueing thing
 
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