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R K Singh
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After reading this post today and it was in my mind for a long time but just was not getting time to post.
So today I decided to post.
Call me orthodox, I could not understand need of premarital sex ?
Am i saying that marriage is for sex only?
No but it plays major role in marriage and I think all over world legality of marriage depends on sex.
One can file for divorce if other partner has not have sex with one for six months or denies to have sex.
So I think sex is major actor of system called marriage which found in all human society. [There are some animal societies also.]
If sex is main ingrediant of marriage and if its available then why one should go for marriage ??
[Again agreed, marriage is NOT all about sex]
Here is the graph of US about premarital sex

What could be the reason for premarital sex and for EMA(extra marital affairs) ?
[for PS(Premarital Sex) reason is only one .. sex ]
Is parenthood is responsible for PS ? Can we blame parents for it. [Parents wont like to be blamed for it but can we ??]
After PS comes marriage and after marriage comes divorce
Divorce happens because of marriage
Here is graph of divorce rates in US

Does high divorce rate has something to do with premarital sex ?
I dont know whether high divorce rate is good or bad.
On one side high divorce rate shows independence of woman in society and high level of security for an exclusive person.
But at the same time it shows disbelief in family system and has adverse affects on child's psychology.
Why its so high in developed nations?
Why do we as a society accept PS and divorce to be normal routine of life ?
Can we control it?
Why would it be controlled ?
I have some answers and I dont have also
PS: why only US is in the picture?, for I got it easily on net. I tried to look for data for India but could not found
[ July 11, 2003: Message edited by: Ravish Kumar ]

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I think. its time for you to go for a vacation in Goa!..


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The reason is there are problems in the society. Nobody wanna get left out. When one started, and talk the talk and walk the walk, others don't understand. Worst, the people who don't understand speaks and got dejected and ignored by people who talk the talk and walk the walk. People who talk the talk doesn't wanna do things they have done before. They themselves don't understand before.
Am I right? The more I type the more I think the whole thing is bull-shit!
If not, invent a taboo=if you PS, you will get 2 things beside sympathy, i.e. shit and syphilis
And the Gods of the nations will have plenty of work to do, how's that?
Anonymous
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If not, substitute these lyrics for the song entitled "U R the Lord that Healed Me" and sing them out loud.
U R the lord, that ask me to
U R the lord, that ask me to go to Amsterdam
U R the lord who ask me to go to Amsterdam
U R the lord who ask me to
Anonymous
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No, I think the best thing to do is offer mind consoling advice that must be fresh, if not shut the fark up.
Anonymous
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Why its so high in developed nations?
I feel women are more independent than other countries.
Vijay S. Rathore
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Read this interesting story. I don't know who wrote this story or actually tried this. I read this on web somewhere.
Put eight monkeys in a room. In the middle of the room is a ladder, leading to a bunch of bananas hanging from a hook on the ceiling. Each time a monkey tries to climb the ladder, all the monkeys are sprayed with ice water, which makes them miserable.
Soon enough, whenever a monkey attempts to climb the ladder, all of the other monkeys, not wanting to be sprayed, set upon him and beat him up. Soon, none of the eight monkeys ever attempts to climb the ladder. One of the original monkeys is then removed, and a new monkey is put in the room.
Seeing the bananas and the ladder, he wonders why none of the other monkeys are doing the obvious, but, undaunted, he immediately begins to climb the ladder. All the other monkeys fall upon him and beat him silly. He has no idea why. However, he no longer attempts to climb the ladder.
A second original monkey is removed and replaced. The newcomer again attempts to climb the ladder, but all the other monkeys hammer the crap out of him. This includes the previous new monkey , who, grateful that he's not on the receiving end this time, participates in the beating because all the other monkeys are doing it. However, he has no idea why he's attacking the new monkey.
One by one, all the original monkeys are replaced. Eight new monkeys are now in the room . None of them have ever been sprayed by ice water. None of them attempt to climb the ladder. All of them will enthusiastically beat up any new monkey who tries, without having any idea why.

Most people do things only because they see others doing it, without actually thinking what should be done.
This story fits for most of the scenarios in today's world. You talk about corruption, politics, company policies, premarital sex, reason for divorce etc. etc. etc.. No one has time to think or compromise. A man is egoist. Women are self-dependent. Illiterate is unknown, educated is self-centered.
Does this story prove that our ancestors were monkeys? I never said that.
The crux of any story is NATURE WILL MAINTAIN ITS BALANCE by hook or by crook.
Careful: Never try to actually experiment this story, just observe around (about any situation) and ask people why they do (involve in corruption, go to politics, ignore company policies, have premarital sex or want a divorce) this?


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sunitha reghu
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Originally posted by Balaji Loganathan:
I think. its time for you to go for a vacation in Goa!..

ravish u need a break.

sex is more open in developed countries. why so many red streets in india??? Regarding the EMS
noone will give a correct ans in india so no survey report. Then why all tel series nowadays have the story of EMS in india.
My que is why india is heading towards AIDS castrophe
Wat is the reason for that. The percentage is very high in teenager boys in india...whyyy???
Regarding the divorce rate...There is disadvantage and advantages like two side of the coin. The divorce rate in Kerala is very high compared to other states in India why? Women more literate in Kerala than any other states.
Why we have a high population growth??
Arjun Shastry
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Bolo Ravish ye sub quon? quon? quon? quon?
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R K Singh
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Originally posted by sunitha raghu:
Women more literate in Kerala than any other states.

First thing first .. so you want to say educated women wants divorce... WHY ?
Now second thing.. whoever thinks that India has no premarital sex or EMA, he is fooling himself.
Iw was here and its there ... it has nothing to do with education or economic status.
But percentage I can certainly say that is low.
AW I am not talking about India or US, I am talking in a genral sense.
Is it good to have high divorce rate ?
I have also said that it has plus points and also negative points.
What does HIGH divorce rate show?
What does LOW divorce rate show ?
What does high premarital sex rate shows?
what does low premarital sex rate shows?
the story about monkey, I dnot think holds good here. No one here is doing these things in society because others are doing.
AW I dont have answer.
I have some conclusions which varies with situations.
Anonymous
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It could be some girls fall in love with a married man. These problems always occur monthly. These problems are less severe with guys.
I'm not a MCP. But statistics have proof this. Read for yourselves. Read between the lines.
Even in ancient myths of old, it is Eve who started the whole thing by tempting Adam. The raeson I can think of is she's too enchanted by the snake; just like a sparrow is enchanted by a snake; flying too close to the snake to watch it and eventually got eaten by it.
My views are based on conrete evidence and statistics.
Anonymous
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Yes, reasearches have shown that even the sparrows who got eaten by snakes are mostly females.....
Devesh H Rao
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Originally posted by <Jayakuma Nathan>:
Yes, reasearches have shown that even the sparrows who got eaten by snakes are mostly females.....

 
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