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How will lady/girl interpret a gift from a man ?

Steve Mutanson
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If you give a young lady a doll bear as a New Year gift, wll she interpret it in a way that you are sending certain message of love ? Since I don't mean to have that intension, I want to know if that kind gift is proper to send to a colleague. Any thought ? especially from ladies.
Damien Howard
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unless there is some insider joke, or special meaning that just the two of you have or if she has made clear that she collects these dolls as a hobby, I would expect it is not the best gift. If you try to make it clear that you don't mean anything romantic when giving it to her, you may hurt her feelings and if you don't she may take it the wrong way.
Gift certificates are good for friends you don't know what to buy.
Steve Mutanson
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Then, how about chololate or candy ? How will they interpret that ?
thanks.
Michael Ernest
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Your problem lies in the way you put the question, my friend. Try considering your friend for who she is, rather than her gender. She ain't a mystery just because she ain't hangin' where you are.
Randall Twede
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im certainly no expert on this subject, but i think a practical gift would be better. something she could use at work perhaps, like a calendar with pictures pertaining to an interest of hers. is it traditional to give New Years gifts to colleagues where you live?


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Richard Hawkes
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I am an expert on females and concur with Randall that a practical gift would be better. Maybe be a new ironing board?
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I think Steve is just pulling your leg
Thomas Paul
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A box of condoms is always a nice gift... and practical too!


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Randall Twede
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michael,
good idea! no way she will misinterpret that as a romantic gesture :roll:
Thomas Paul
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I just noticed, "young lady"! Exactly how old is this "young lady"?
Cindy Glass
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Well, she is a colleague, so she can't be that young.
So - are you getting any GUY colleagues a gift? :roll:

Buying gifts for females:
Rule #1: NEVER get her something practical. MEN like practical things. Women do not.
Rule #2: If you get her something silly and romantic (like a doll bear, or flowers or candy) she will think that you have ulterior motives. If you get her something expensive she will think that you have ulterior motives. If you get her something meaningful or personal she will think that you have ulterior motives. This comes from thousands and thousands of years of learning that men almost ALWAYS have ulterior motives.
Your best bet if you DON'T want her to think that you have ulterior motives is to get her something practical. She won't like it, but she won't get nervous either.
On the other hand, why do you feel motivated to get her a gift anyway?


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Eleison Zeitgeist
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Originally posted by Cindy Glass:
Well, she is a colleague, so she can't be that young.
So - are you getting any GUY colleagues a gift? :roll:

Buying gifts for females:
Rule #1: NEVER get her something practical. MEN like practical things. Women do not.
Rule #2: If you get her something silly and romantic (like a doll bear, or flowers or candy) she will think that you have ulterior motives. If you get her something expensive she will think that you have ulterior motives. If you get her something meaningful or personal she will think that you have ulterior motives. This comes from thousands and thousands of years of learning that men almost ALWAYS have ulterior motives.
Your best bet if you DON'T want her to think that you have ulterior motives is to get her something practical. She won't like it, but she won't get nervous either.
On the other hand, why do you feel motivated to get her a gift anyway?

"ulterior motives" :-)
Usually, for me I would just give her a pencil and nod my head and say "how's you doing??" That should be enough "gift" for any girl... else you're thinking way too much :-)
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Randall Twede
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On the other hand, why do you feel motivated to get her a gift anyway?

thats what i was wondering
basha khan
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give that gift with a caption 'i dont love you'.or 'i never love you'.or 'i hate you'.
otherwise use 'i dont love you but..' caption.
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Cindy Glass
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The problem is that she is going to figure that you mean "I don't love you but . . . I want to have wild and crazy sex with you" :roll:
basha khan
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The problem is that she is going to figure that you mean "I don't love you but . . . I want to have wild and crazy sex with you"
but who mean it?.i m sure that Steve Mutanson never mean it.
basha
Steve Mutanson
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Ladies and gentlemen, thank you for your feedback. Actually the only motivation was just good friendship, of course, a friendship between a man and a lady, but not really romantic. We don't intend to cross the line...
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Originally posted by Steve Mutanson:
Ladies and gentlemen, thank you for your feedback. Actually the only motivation was just good friendship, of course, a friendship between a man and a lady, but not really romantic.

Gee. If she wanted to have you as a friend, she would already let you know. If she did not... Just relax, there is little you can do...


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Thomas Paul
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Well, if you don't think the condoms are a good idea how about a good Java book?
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Richard Hawkes
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Originally posted by Cindy Glass:
Rule #1: NEVER get her something practical.
Some women love practical gifts. My wife was so pleased with her birthday present (a hoover and 2 years supply of bags), she actually cried! And I didn't have to have sex with her for two months! Bonus!
Seriously Steve, if you're intent on getting a plutonic gift, I'd go for daft/jokey rather than cutesy. That's pretty safe. If you don't give it to her in private or make a big deal out of it she shouldn't take it the wrong way. Maybe. Risky! Goodluck.
Richard Hawkes
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Originally posted by basha khan:
give that gift with a caption 'i dont love you'.or 'i never love you'.or 'i hate you'. otherwise use 'i dont love you but..' caption.

Why not just get a dozen balloons delvered to her desk with the words "I'd never have sex with you in a million years" written on them. That should establish some boundaries
basha khan
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idea is good.
baloons with a needle will be even better.
basha
Ashik Uzzaman
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Rather than these so much thoughts, I would have let her think whatever she wants
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Michael Ernest
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Ridiculous. The proper thing to do is to obsess over the consequences of every action you perform in her presence.
Thomas Paul
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Give her the teddy bear and tell her you're gay.
[ August 14, 2003: Message edited by: Thomas Paul ]
Carlisia Campos
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If a colleague gave me a teddy bear my first question would be:
"Where am I going to put this?!".
Give her something she can get rid of without you knowing.


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