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Balaji Loganathan
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Joined: Jul 13, 2001
Posts: 3150
One of my friend(gal) was just dropped out by her boyfriend as they were not able to spend time together in the same country.
She is totally upset now and feeling **ssed and sometimes even cry.
I just want to convince her, cheerup her with some good motivating words etc.,
Could anyone please give me some good tips which could help her to come out from this kind of frustrations??
I'm her good friend, so please don't comment that i'm trying to take advantage on her problem.
Only good reply PLEASE
Lasse Koskela

Joined: Jan 23, 2002
Posts: 11962
I think you should
a) Show her that your behavior towards her is not affected by what happened -- you're still a friend of hers.
b) Keep her company. Go shopping with her or something (something that doesn't seem like you're on a date!). Don't let her dwell in misery all the time. Some, or course, but not all the time. Even a single Dilbert cartoon emailed to her before going to sleep can save the day...
Note that I'm really not good with these things. This is just what my logical reasoning came up with.

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HS Thomas
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Joined: May 15, 2002
Posts: 3404
This reminds me of the film, You've Got Mail.
You could try e-mailing her anonymously to distract her. And take the chance she might kill you afterwards.
Actually stick with Lasse's suggestion - if you intend on being a friend only.
Or try group therapy with a group of friends who'll help decide whether you are meant for each other
Balaji Loganathan
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Posts: 3150
Lasse and Thomas!.. Thank you very much for replying.
I agree. Here's the link:
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