I have a lady friend and I know she has a daughter. Last month before Christmas I bought a doll bear and wanted to give it to her daughter, however since I didn't know her daughter's name and wanted to give her a surprise, I put her name in the "To" section. When I presented it to her I told her I bought this for her daughter. But it seemed she felt uncomfortable with it. Later on I thought -- Could it because I didn't put her daughter's name there and it made her feel I was trying to approch and please her ? But I can't ask her this question. So, if you were the lady, would you misinterpret it ? BTW, I really meant to send it to her daughter. Otherwise I would just frankly express myself.
Without knowing the dynamics of your relationship its a little hard too tell what her problem might've been. However if you've never met the daughter (or even know her name) then I could understand why your friend might think it was a little weird and that you had other motives. Either that or she wanted the bear for herself or her daughter is actually 18 years old or something...
Hmmm. Why didn't you just leave the label blank as you were giving it to your lady friend in person and telling her then that it was for her daughter would have been sufficient ? Er who were you trying to surprise- daughter or lady friend. Or asking the friend for permission to give it to the daughter and then writing the right name for who it's for on the label would have been the most appropriate action IMHO. Sorry if that makes you feel worse. [ January 26, 2004: Message edited by: HS Thomas ]
Steve, as you feel you can't ask her outright about her feelings, I have to assume that the two of you are not close and/or romantically involved... and you don't mention if she is a single Mom or happily married/with partner... if she's single, she may feel slightly freaked out that you over-stepped the mark (especially if she isn't attracted to you) ... ***this kind of attention to detail from a man goes against the laws of nature where I come from and would indicate that he is on a mission*** If she's happily married, and you're just buddies... where's the problem? Go and have a beer - you worry too much!