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Saheed Adepoju
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Hi all
I am kinda sad today and hey i just found a forum where i culd post any thing not related to Java! I need a girlfriend and i am getting really bored. We could start up as penpals.. I just need someone to talk to. Female between 18-23 needed. Thanks. And i apologise if this is unappropraite for this room or any where else.
Saheed.


Saheed Adepoju<br />SCJP 1.4<br />SCJD (B&S..In progress)
John Smith
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I am afraid that MD is a bad bet for your intent. The few ladies that hang around here are geeks that are beyond their prime age for mating. Besides, they are never bored, and would probably not think much of a male who is.
Gerald Davis
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Originally posted by John Smith:
I am afraid that MD is a bad bet for your intent. The few ladies that hang around here are geeks that are beyond their prime age for mating. Besides, they are never bored, and would probably not think much of a male who is.


What is beyond prime mating age, it would be interesting to know your answer? There's a different between loneliness boredom and sadness. I for one is never bored I have an open-source project to work on. But my loneliness so bad it makes me feel physically ill.I feel tormented
Sania Marsh
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Originally posted by John Smith:
I am afraid that MD is a bad bet for your intent. The few ladies that hang around here are geeks that are beyond their prime age for mating. Besides, they are never bored, and would probably not think much of a male who is.


You never know what you'll learn about yourself...
I thought I was "attractive young woman" turns out I'm "geek that is beyond prime age for mating". I'm just 2 years older than the post required .
Ahhh truth hurts!
Tony Alicea
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At the risk of making this thread a non-trivial one and as such a meaningful one...

The statement "beyond their prime age for mating" reminded me instantly of "Jimmy the Greek"'s racist comments years ago (he lost his job in broadcasting for that) on how, paraphrasing, "blacks have been bred in this country [USA] for physical strength, etc etc".

The actual, only, pre-requisite for mating and/or dating is to be alive.
Tony Alicea
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Saheed:

You don't say how old you are but besides hanging out suspiciously around public high schools, I suggest you matriculate (register) in either a community college or a real university and audit a class; preferably one which traditionally, in that college, has attracted a higher number of females; in other words, a class in which the female/male ratio is high.

I met some of my absolute best females friends just like that at the Anne Arundel Community College in (near, that is) Annapolis, the capital of Maryland (USA).

One of the best (if not the best) cities that I have ever lived in.

I was almost 42 when I met the cutest and darling female friends, both 19 years old, one from Venezuela, the other one from the former Czechoslovakia, now the Czech Republic.

Although the Czech girl, Andrea, was 19, she had the brain of an adult. She looked like a movie star and her IQ I'm sure was very high (I was the best student in Physics at my University upon graduation).

The other one was a petite from Venezuela with a body like the above, but simply smaller.

The three of us would go out often in my old (yes, as in old car) Toyota Tercel and I will never forget the looks with which we came accustomed to (and couldn't care less about!) that we got from ignorant people.

I sometimes felt like saying to them (actually I didn't but would it not have been great to say it?): "Sir (or madam) these girls are with me here today by choice; I assure you , this is not a kidnapping!")

That would apply even more when I went out with only one of them.

I am getting somewhere with this... The point is that...

I found the friendship of these young, intelligent, (alas, non-American) women to be some of the deepest friendships that I'd have ever had.

Soon after meeting them I realized that having, or trying to have, sex with any of them would have been a relationship killer. So I didn't do it. And I am happy for it.

But then again, you may seeking for a possible future ex-wife! Ha ha!
[ December 04, 2004: Message edited by: Tony Alicea ]
Tony Alicea
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Did I mention that I am not gay?

"Not that there's anything wrong with that!" (Seinfeld)
Tony Alicea
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Did I mention (no I didn't) that the best outings (as in almost dates) that I have ever been in, was with these two GREAT looking 19 year old ladies in Annapolis? Since I was (and still am) a bachelor with a great job, money was no object when the three of us went out. (Except that we would arrive at the place in my old car.)

Some of you of the hispanic persuasion may (just may, not necessarily), ask yourselves, how can any Venezuelan parent let her 19-year old daughter go out with a 42-year old man?

The answer is that I met them before their daughter was ever seated in my car. It was the first night that I was going to take her out which wasn't specifically a date, but a ride to a college party, in particular an "International Student Association" party.

They politely grilled me as I would have done in their situation. After that meeting I was the ONLY dude that they would let her go out with at anytime for any reason without asking questions (did I mention I am not gay?).

They were both medical doctors in the USA by then. (I think they were younger than I was at the time!)

On the other hand, the parents of Andrea, the Czech girl who was 5',8" tall didn't seem to care where she was going. Maybe they trusted her since, after all, she was very intelligent and mature for her age.
[ December 04, 2004: Message edited by: Tony Alicea ]
Warren Dew
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Tony Alicea:

Although the Czech girl, Andrea, was 19, she had the brain of an adult.

Most of the 19 year olds I know would be surprised to learn they aren't adults. Indeed, some of them probably think they are old enough to make their own decisions about who to go out with!
Gerald Davis
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Originally posted by Tony Alicea:
Saheed:

The three of us would go out often in my old (yes, as in old car) Toyota Tercel and I will never forget the looks with which we came accustomed to (and couldn't care less about!) that we got from ignorant people.

[ December 04, 2004: Message edited by: Tony Alicea ]



I didn't know that your age difference would even raise an eyebrow. Just remember being with these lovely ladies is much better then being alone. Nobody would have a problem with you being alone would they, but it is not their life, it is yours and I am sure your living it the best way you see fit.

However ,what was you thinking when you bought a Toyota Terce that car is proper pants, I tell thee! I didn't even know that they had them in America, where the cars are big and beautiful. They must of liked you much to be driven around in that.
Ashok Mash
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As the saying goes, 'to win it you have to be in it'.

I suppose, to find someone interesting, assuming that an average 'interesting person' wouldn't on the look out for 'not so interesting' persons, I guess your best bet is to make yourself interesting. As already mentioned, get involved with stuff that interests you, try joining clubs, groups, and try get out more (not, if you are already a party animal) and get involved more!

One thing is certain; 'desperation' is least appealing to opposite sex!


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Gerald Davis
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I have a very good ability to portend that I am happy but I know is as I get older I hate going out even more, it is just expensive and depressing. I don't even see the weekends as anything really spacial any more. I don't see myself with anyone unless I become rich so that is what I am concentration on at the moment. None of the few girls friends I had ever said I love you. So I don't expect it now. The relation ship I have with a girl is going to be not better then a knight has with is horse.
Saheed Adepoju
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Sorry guys! I turned 21 in June. I am presently in 4th year (B.Tech Math/Computer sc.)! I really do get bored and lonely! Sometimes i wonder what got me into Java. But sometimes i do when the money rolls in! Right now i just finished Internship and also got cerrtified while i was @ it! Right now i am just chiling with nothing to do. Well i guess i gave a little info about myself! Hope someone replies me! And i will even increase the age thin' from 18-26yrs! PLS someone say somethin' to me.
Saheed.
SCJP 1.4 and bored..
Balaji Loganathan
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Chat - Internet can makes friend for you.
Just start chatting.

Making friends is not very difficult if you forget your own problems and be open minded.

Sense of humour is more important, atleast pretend it.

Dont forget ur smile.

World is more open now.

Good luck.


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Gerald Davis
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Originally posted by Balaji Loganathan:
Chat - Internet can makes friend for you.
Just start chatting.

Making friends is not very difficult if you forget your own problems and be open minded.

Sense of humour is more important, atleast pretend it.

Dont forget ur smile.

World is more open now.

Good luck.


I am one of those people who are better off without a sense of humour, sometimes I make a joke like do dogs have monthly periods but humour is not my friend. I try to smile when I can though. When I am dating it is batter to think about being like Arnold Schwartznegger then any clown like homer Simpson.
Sania Marsh
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Originally posted by Saheed Adepoju:
Sorry guys! I turned 21 in June. I am presently in 4th year (B.Tech Math/Computer sc.)! I really do get bored and lonely! Sometimes i wonder what got me into Java. But sometimes i do when the money rolls in! Right now i just finished Internship and also got cerrtified while i was @ it! Right now i am just chiling with nothing to do. Well i guess i gave a little info about myself! Hope someone replies me! And i will even increase the age thin' from 18-26yrs! PLS someone say somethin' to me.
Saheed.
SCJP 1.4 and bored..


So what date is your birthday? I'll send you card
Go into some yahoo chat room or pool game, you'll find someone to talk with...
Amanda Leigh
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Wow, what�s wrong with girls that are "geeks"? I am 23/female geek and proud of it! I don't think that geek means bad looking, or lacking personality. My female geek friends are beautiful. I am starting to think that is normal.

It is good to hear that there are some intelligent single men around the ranch. I knew I liked this place.
Ellen Zhao
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ditto.

this thread has gone much better than i had thought. i feel like to break the silence.

23/female geek. cheer up Saheed. loneliness cuts the bone, you are not alone you are open and direct, that could be something charming. jr is a good place if you are looking.

one thing to suggest: girls are more than solution for your bordem

if you are interesting and intelligent, and behave like a gentleman, chances are big. GOOD LUCK
[ December 05, 2004: Message edited by: Ellen Zhao ]
Sonny Gill
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Originally posted by Amanda Leigh:

I don't think that geek means bad looking, or lacking personality. My female geek friends are beautiful. I am starting to think that is normal.


Unfortunately that is not how the rest of the humanity views us supersapiens

Ref: dictionary.com -

geek
n. Slang
1. A person regarded as foolish, inept, or clumsy.
2. A person who is single-minded or accomplished in scientific or technical pursuits but is felt to be socially inept.
2. A carnival performer whose show consists of bizarre acts, such as biting the head off a live chicken.


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Sonny Gill
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Originally posted by Ellen Zhao:

if you are interesting and intelligent, and behave like a gentleman,


Ahh..so perfectly that sentence describes me

Would you like to meet up for a cup of herbal tea, Ellen?
(See I am health concious too, coffee's bad for you.... do you smell cigarettes on me!!...oh, that's just to keep my weight down... )
Warren Dew
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Amanda Leigh:

Wow, what�s wrong with girls that are "geeks"? I am 23/female geek and proud of it! I don't think that geek means bad looking, or lacking personality. My female geek friends are beautiful. I am starting to think that is normal.

It's the "intelligent" and "having a personality" part that scares a lot of guys off.

Myself, I could never have married a nongeek.
John Smith
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Dedicated to Amanda Leigh:


I searched the world to find you, Amanda;
The meaningless drivel of social mores
Was ocean of blond and redhead propaganda
For them alone the men were fighting wars

And I deserted the bloody battlefield
Where men menstruated from their wounds
I had an erotic dream, which revealed
The path and the destiny towards the truth

You were a beautiful self-motivated geek,
With two certifications of some sort
You had a flawless programming technique
And knew why use the API Collection.sort()

Your eyes were open wide as open source
The fruity lips as sweet as hotspot JVM
The breasts, two instances of the resource
And load balancer would be controlling them


Well, at that point, I ran out of poetic ispiration. Perhaps I will finish it tomorrow.
Arjun Shastry
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Originally posted by Saheed Adepoju:
Sorry guys! I turned 21 in June. I am presently in 4th year (B.Tech Math/Computer sc.)! I really do get bored and lonely! Sometimes i wonder what got me into Java.

Which university in India offers this course BTech in Math/Computers Sc?


MH
Saheed Adepoju
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Originally posted by Arjun Shastry:

Which university in India offers this course BTech in Math/Computers Sc?


Well Guys it's really wonderful to know that people feel the way i feel! I am happy to be part of this wonderfully big family. Well i am not Indian, i am Nigerian for most of you that think i am Indian. My birthday is June 13th. Name of my school in Nigeria is Federal University of Technology situated in Niger state. Well i am still expecting you all to give me a very cool nice penpal. My add is saheedadepoju2003@yahoo.com, and would luv to see mails from all you female geeks out there! Keep chilling..
Saheed.
SCJP 1.4 and bored..
Ellen Zhao
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Originally posted by Sonny Gill:


Ahh..so perfectly that sentence describes me

Would you like to meet up for a cup of herbal tea, Ellen?
(See I am health concious too, coffee's bad for you.... do you smell cigarettes on me!!...oh, that's just to keep my weight down... )


one sentence needs to be changed: Would you like to meet up for a cup of herbal tea, girls?

Tee mu� der Gr�nste und Mann mu� der J�ngste. (the english translation is not nifty enough, retranslated the original into german)

Ist Dein Tee der Gr�nste und bist Du der J�ngste?
[ December 13, 2004: Message edited by: Ellen Zhao ]
Sania Marsh
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Originally posted by Sonny Gill:
Unfortunately that is not how the rest of the humanity views us supersapiens


So you believe you are geek and the definition you posted applies to you?
I have team of developers, all smart and talented, and only one geeky..
I never thought geek means smart, I thought geek means a person who behaves wierd and stuck on one subject. You posting on MD tells the opposite.
Am I not understanding right what people mean by "geek"?
[ December 06, 2004: Message edited by: Rita Moore ]
Sonny Gill
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Originally posted by Ellen Zhao:
Would you like to meet up for a cup of herbal tea, girls?


Whoa..it keeps on getting better . We may as well change another (2) word(s) in there..herbal tea doesnt quite fit in there anymore...how about some nice german beer...

But wait, there must be a catch somewhere...

Hmm..let's try to decrypt the rest of the message -

1st attempt -
Ist Dein Tee der Gr�nst und bist Du der J�ngs
Your dte is becomes green and is you the Juengs

Tee mu� der Gr�nst und Mann mu� der J�ngst
Dte must becomes green and man must the recently

2nd attempt -
Ist Dein Tee der Gr�nst und bist Du der J�ngs
If your tea is the greening and It are the J�ngs

Tee mu� der Gr�nst und Mann mu� der J�ngst
Tea must go the greening and man if he must go Recently

hmmm..we are definately getting somewhere...all I need is to wait for google to get even better....

p.s. Elaine Chang's music samples are all windows media, I should be checking those out as soon as Microsoft goes open source
[ December 06, 2004: Message edited by: Sonny Gill ]
Sonny Gill
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Originally posted by Rita Moore:

So you believe you are geek and the definition you posted applies to you?


Which definition do you mean? geeks as supersapiens or geeks as people who enjoy biting heads off alive chickens?
R K Singh
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Originally posted by Saheed Adepoju:
I need a girlfriend and i am getting really bored.


seriously, why do you need a "girl" friend.. why not just a friend ??

AW all the best.. hope you get a friend and will not feel bored.


"Thanks to Indian media who has over the period of time swiped out intellectual taste from mass Indian population." - Chetan Parekh
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Amanda: Wow, what�s wrong with girls that are "geeks"?
Sonny: Unfortunately that is not how the rest of the humanity views us supersapiens


This isn't the only case when a term used by outsiders as pejorative, is used by insiders as a term of endearment. I read the same is true for N-word. It is considered offensive when uttered by a white, but for Blacks can use it in a friendly sense. Perhaps this is a way for a minority group to defend itself from hostile attitudes of majority -- to "hijack" an insult by re-defining it.
[ December 19, 2004: Message edited by: Mapraputa Is ]

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Gerald Davis
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The suffering of nerds and those with asperger syndrome is for the progress of mankind , look at the greatest Britons for example http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/entertainment/tv_and_radio/2341661.stm and while you are at it check out their bloodline.

Why should anyone care about how happy these guys are, their ancestors only care about keeping bloodline pure by dating cousins.
Marc Peabody
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Saheed,
You could get your SCWCD cert. Chicks really dig Web Component Developers.

And if you really want to win a female geeks' heart you could try coding poetry.

If she thinks it is sweet, she is geek dating material.
If she points out the reasons why it won't compile, she is geek marrying material.
[ December 20, 2004: Message edited by: Marc Peabody ]

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Angela Poynton
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Originally posted by John Smith:
I am afraid that MD is a bad bet for your intent. The few ladies that hang around here are geeks that are beyond their prime age for mating. Besides, they are never bored, and would probably not think much of a male who is.


I'm am deeply offended. I'm half tempted to edit/delete this post but since it's stayed here this long I won't.
Despite the fact I couldn't reply to Saheed since have a fabulous boyfriend (who is, BTW also a programming geek so Saheed there is hope) and am still too old to meet even Saheed's second age-range preference am just 27, and I think my boyfriend would agree that I'm at my prime age for mating (if there is such a thing). In fact hasn't various studies indicated that a woman hits her sexual peak in her 30s?? So I've yet to reach that.
I'm also frequently bored, when there isn't someone or something around to stimulate my mind.

Saheed, join a class or other kind of group. Go to dance classes, there are lots of women there looking for a male partner to dance with and it'll give you a chance to get to know them.

Despite the fact that my boyfriend and I are both programmers we met via another interest we share, in our case it was stand-up comedy, it could be something else for you. You need other interests outside of I.T. in order to make yourself seem more interesting and therefore attractive.


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