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R K Singh
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Stop saying 'Hi' when I am in toilet/rest-room.

My hands are busy. And my head is down, I cant see you.
Atleast wait till I go to wash basin to wash my hands.

Please socialise in cafeteria (and other places of socialising), not in rest room.
[ July 11, 2005: Message edited by: R K Singh ]

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Arjunkumar Shastry
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Ok.
Best way is to wear a veil while going to toilet.


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Matt Fielder
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I agree more than you know. When I'm "holding stuff" I don't want to bond with you with some small talk. I don't care how your weekend was and I don't want to tell you how mine was.

Should we start a pet peeve thread.
How about...

don't say hi to me every freakin time you see me for 8 hours. I saw you. I said hi. Move along. Nothing to see here.


Or...

Don't use "execu-greeting"
"Hey how ya doin'?
Good thanks. How you doin'?
Good.
Good."
What exactly is that anyway?
Michael Ernest
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I favor replacing all this with a system of hand-checks. You do enough of those in a day, people get tired of it, and they don't have to consider why. Plus people who don't want to touch each other, don't. That's just as effective a greeting as anything else.


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Paul Bourdeaux
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Stop saying 'Hi' when I am in toilet/rest-room.

Heh heh heh, I agree. Although it can get even worse. When I was deployed with the military (quite a few years back) we had a laterine that had NO privacy walls seperating the stalls. I swear, there were some people with no social skills. You would be sitting there, doing what men normally do when they sit down in a latrine, when someone would invariably walk in and say, "Hey, what ya doing?"

What the hell does it look like I'm doing? Leave me alone! :roll:


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Mani Ram
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Next time, when someone says hi in a rest room, just reply "Hello, how do you do?", and offer him a handshake.
Note: This idea works out better, if your hands are wet.


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Ernest Friedman-Hill
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Originally posted by Mani Ram:

Note: This idea works out better, if your hands are wet.


Works even better if you turn towards them to offer the handshake. And you weren't done with your business. And they're wearing nice shoes.


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Matt Fielder
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Once I got the "hey, how ya doing?"

Nothing like opening yourself up.
My response, "I'm just standing here holding my [...]. So... how are YOU doing?"
There was total silence.
Axel Janssen
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In toilet they never talk to me. Just watching down at my ... with envy.
Alan Wanwierd
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Strange isnt it..

Its an undocumented rule of public toilet etiquette! You must not talk to anyone (or even acknowledge their presence in anyway whatsoever) except in a few very specific circumstances:

1) A close relative who you had no idea was in the building walks in - In this case a very subtle nod of the head to is acceptable.

2) Half time at a sporting event *and* the facilities are crowded - Comments should be restricted to a refelection of the game so far and speculation as to how the game might proceed (gentle teasing may be permitted if your neighbour supports the oposing team and they are losing).

3) Late evening on a heavy drinking session - Provided you are sure that the euphoric mood you feel is universal and that others are in a similar state (such as at a xmas party) comments should be offered to the entire room and just be expressions of how *fantasic* the evenng is so far!

I cant think of any other circumstances where anything other than compelte introverted silence is acceptable!


Chetan Parekh
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LOL

I want to tell a nice toilet joke at this moment…..

Once a foreigner come to India.
While walking in the street he found that a person is urinating in public.
He went to him and says “In my country if you do this, police will hold?”
That fellow reply, “No, in my country we have to hold ourselves”.


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R K Singh
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Originally posted by Arjunkumar Shastry:
Best way is to wear a veil while going to toilet.


Or lock the door, let them do Left-Right for a moment ;-)
Dave Lenton
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What is impressive about people in the Gents (do people call male toilets, woops*, restrooms that in other places?) is that they instantly gain better maths skills. In places that have a row of urinals, one of the many unspoken rules (along with the no talking one) is that everyone should stand as far away as possible from each other. Men who would otherwise be rubbish at maths can look at a row of urinals, some occupied, and immediately determine which one has the maximum gap on either side. This is possible even when the man in question has an IQ of 15, has drunk 14 pints, failed every maths lesson at school and is blind. It must be instinct or something.

*One fascinating thing about facilities to dispose of the end product of our waste system is the huge range of names for them, and how these names can have different connotations in different places. In the UK, the most common words are "loo" and "toilet". I know of one Englishman who went to a restaurant in the USA and asked a waiter where the toilet was. The waiter looked a bit shocked, as if the word toilet was quite rude, and replied "The restroom is over there sir". Its funny how a word considered perfectly fine to say in polite company here was unacceptable there.

While on the subject, why is it called restroom? OK, so some people may have a bit of a rest in there while performing certain functions, but resting is hardly the main purpose of the room. Just as strange is calling it the bathroom when it doesn't contain a bath. Weird.


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R K Singh
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Originally posted by Dave Lenton:
Its funny how a word considered perfectly fine to say in polite company here was unacceptable there.


Did you ask for "Paper Napkin" in any reataurant in US :roll:
Dave Lenton
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Originally posted by R K Singh:
Did you ask for "Paper Napkin" in any reataurant in US :roll:


No.... but now I am scared to.

Why? What kind of nasty misunderstanding would that cause?

There are some other potentially problematic cross-Atlantic language differences - its perfectly fine in the UK to mention that you fancy a quick fag, for example. Saying this in the USA could imply something altogether different.
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Originally posted by R K Singh:

Did you ask for "Paper Napkin" in any reataurant in US :roll:


Being a U.S. citizen and lifelong resident, having lived on both coasts, I can't imagine what you're implying here. The only thing I can think of: it's true that the word "napkin" can refer to both the thing you wipe your face with, and a feminine hygiene product, but the context always makes the meaning clear. And "paper napkin" would absolutely disambiguate it -- it would always mean the face kind. The other kind is a "sanitary napkin".

Now, It's true that asking for a "paper napkin" in a nice restaurant might be a little odd, because nice restaurants have cloth ones, which are considered more sophisticated; paper disposable ones are used in cheaper restaurants. But whatever. The only difficulty I can imagine is that they might not have any.

Regarding "Where is the toilet?": The word "toilet" is rarely if ever used to mean the room in the US; here, it commonly refers to the actual floor-mounted porcelain fixture. Asking "Where's the toilet?" is therefore an odd question -- the correct answer is always "It's in the rest room!"

Regarding "rest room": We think this is odd, too. You rarely say "bathroom" about a public place, because yeah, a bathroom usually has a bath. You generally say "rest room" as the gender-neutral form of "men's room" and "ladies' room," which are also very common.
R K Singh
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Originally posted by Ernest Friedman-Hill:
The other kind is a "sanitary napkin".


Obviously you kow better than me, but I am advised not to ask paper napkin in restaurant cause it is used for "sanitary napkin".
Maulin Vasavada
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hi R.K

i didnt face any subtle shock or anything by saying paper napkin in US so far.

regards
maulin
Ernest Friedman-Hill
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Originally posted by R K Singh:


Obviously you kow better than me, but I am advised not to ask paper napkin in restaurant cause it is used for "sanitary napkin".


Nope, not in the U.S., anyway. Never.
Layne Lund
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Originally posted by R K Singh:


Did you ask for "Paper Napkin" in any reataurant in US :roll:


I'm an American through-and-through, so I apologize for my ignorance. As EFH infers, in the US, we use the word "napkin" to refer to a piece of cloth or paper used to wipe your face during a meal. Does "paper napkin" have some other conotation in Britain?

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R K Singh
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Originally posted by Ernest Friedman-Hill:
Nope, not in the U.S., anyway. Never.


Might be wrong observation by some outsider. :roll:
Cherie Deviana
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Lucky for us female, We don't have to worry about that


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Kedar Dravid
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Well, the next time you meet someone socialising so emphatically, you could ask him whether he enjoys kite-flying and has time for a kite-fight.
R K Singh
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Originally posted by Cherie Deviana:
Lucky for us female, We don't have to worry about that


Obviously, it is a male's problem
 
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