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Guys and surprise gifts?

kayal cox
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Most women like to be surprised with gifts - flowers, chocolates, jewellery and such.

Do guys also like getting surprise gifts (sometimes for no reason)?
Do they like it if these are sent to their workplace?
Are there any flowers (or any other gift item) that are suitable to send to a guy - maybe a dried flower bouquet or cactii or bonsai plants would be macho enough?

Geek ranchers... your comments please
Thanks.
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Stephen Boston
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My Wife has suprised me several times with gifts and they have always been nice.

I'm not a flower guy (most guys aren't I'm guessing) but the bonsi tree sounds like something that I would enjoy.

Also, if your BO has some hobbies maybe something small that follows the hobby would be nice.

Example: I will be getting a Harley Davidson motorcycle very soon (come on Nov 19th!) and my Wife has found places that offer small, assembled models of the HD bikes and has ordered them for me. They make very nice docorations for my office desk.

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I agree that a gift that fits with a man's hobbies will be well-received. Also stuff (like posters or figurines) from a favorite TV show/movie (Simpsons, Star Wars, etc) would work.

I don't know any guy that would like getting flowers. Chocolate, maybe if you get him a certain thing he really likes (especially something like brownies that you have to bake). The only jewelry I think most guys would care for is a nice watch, unless he sells cars and then he'll like giant gawdy rings (just kidding).


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Monica used to give Bill surprises too. If it worked for the President...


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John, LOL!

I like rings as well. (not the big guady types.)
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A cactus or bonsai would be reasonable if you're confident the gentleman would like such a thing in general.

Speaking as a guy that has gotten presents at work, I can give a couple other good ideas:
  • FOOD! There are any number of work-appropriate items that can be delivered. A can of popcorn, a cookie bouquet, just about anything covered in chocolate.
  • Toys and games. Things like the miniature magnetic dart board, mini pool table, golf putting practice things all go over well.


  • At least at the company where I worked, there was a definitely a culture of sharing such things. I know you want the present to be "just for him", but what you'll be giving him by getting something big enough for his group is the chance to be seen as the cool guy by his coworkers. That would be a better present than something that isn't big (in the case of food) or active enough to share.
    kayal cox
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    The gentleman in question is my husband

    Thanks for all the great ideas everybody... I seem to have harvested quite a number of good ideas.

    1. Cactii or bonsai (whichever one is easier to care for)
    2. Food, yes! I am sure he would appreciate a batch of assorted cookies, or chocolates.
    3. Board games, yes! That's a neat idea. I know they already have foosball, and chess boards at his work place. I will send him a dart board or something.

    Thank you all He is gonna be so delighted !!!
    kayal cox
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    I suppose I will have to go for a magnetic dart boards, because we don't want holes in his office walls.

    Are magnetic dartboards as good as the non-magnetic ones? Anybody has any recommendations..?

    There seem to be so many out there, and not being a player myself, I have no idea what to look for... My colleague recommended that I go for one that has automatic scoring and preferably one that talks.

    Edit: I just discovered that there are many dartboards at my husband's workplace, so this is no longer on my to-buy list.
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    Just a little story, I met my BF through a Forum like this one (but it was full of a different type of Geek - Comedy Geeks) anyway, we started to IM eachother using Yahoo Messenger, I once sent him the "bunch of flowers" smilie and he replied that nobody had ever given him flowers before... it stuck in my mind and months later after we had got together properly I sent him a proper bunch of flowers when he was home sick and he loved them.

    I think he'd have killed me if I had sent them to him at work though (way too embarrassing) and I think the key was to make the bouquet more "masculine" i.e. smaller flowers, lots of blues and purples rather than girly pinks and pastels or a simple arrangement like this
    .
    Of course some men may just not like them at all.. which is fair enough.

    His favourite present that I got him was a unique portrait of one of his comedy heros that I commissioned from an artist friend of mine. I had to keep it a secret for 6 months but it was definitely worth it for the look on his face when he unveiled it.


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    Solveig Laura Haugland
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    This is very topical since I'm in the last week or so of putting together a gift-giving book for guys--how to get gifts, surprise and other, for their wife or girlfriend. (Or both, I guess, if you're into that. ;> )

    I'd like to use some of these ideas if I may since the surprise factor is nice for women too, of course.

    Guys, do you have any anecdotes about gifts you've given a female sweetie? Good or bad, and why? I'm looking to add more real-life examples.

    Women, ditto--do you have anecdotes of a good or bad gift and why? Or a gift like a vacuum cleaner that was actually just what you wanted?

    Thanks,
    Solveig


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    This is the other way around, my boyfriend did this for me last night, but I would think it would be nice.

    He showed up at my house without calling ahead of time, as a surprise, and brought with him champagne (well, Asti, but it's our favorite), takeout Thai (our cuisine of choice), flowers, and two candles. Nothing wildly out of the ordinary but very nice and I would think appreciated by guys too, yes? (Substitute favorite alcoholic drink, favorite takeout food, maybe a small Tick or XMen-shaped candle).

    Btw, I love www.archiemcphee.com for the silly gifts. They have good silly games, action figures, posters, jumping lederhosen, etc.

    Solveig
    Gail Mikels
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    Originally posted by Solveig Laura Haugland:

    Women, ditto--do you have anecdotes of a good or bad gift and why? Or a gift like a vacuum cleaner that was actually just what you wanted?

    A left-handed friend of mine got into deep "you-know-what" with his right-handed wife one Christmas. Bought her a set of left-handed golf clubs!



    My hubby is the type that would think even the "smilie" type of flower bouquet was too sissy. He rarely even seems impressed with receiving ANY gift (though he IS always appreciative). On his birthday last year, I put together & gave him a "Vice Bucket". It was a large-sized horse feed bucket (he loves his horses), filled with things like Crown Royal Whiskey, Patron Tequila, some expensive cigars, and a fine piece of reading material... you know the kind with all the great articles... He loved it, & has been bragging ever since! This year for his b-day (today!), I did a similar thing, only in a mid-sized ice chest. Can't wait to see his face!


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    That's such a Homer! I'm reminded of the bowling ball episode. ;>

    Elaine, I love the vice kit! I've got a chapter on kits--luxury bath kits, summer reading kits, etc.--and this is a great idea.

    Solveig

    Originally posted by Elaine Micheals:

    A left-handed friend of mine got into deep "you-know-what" with his right-handed wife one Christmas. Bought her a set of left-handed golf clubs!



    My hubby is the type that would think even the "smilie" type of flower bouquet was too sissy. He rarely even seems impressed with receiving ANY gift (though he IS always appreciative). On his birthday last year, I put together & gave him a "Vice Bucket". It was a large-sized horse feed bucket (he loves his horses), filled with things like Crown Royal Whiskey, Patron Tequila, some expensive cigars, and a fine piece of reading material... you know the kind with all the great articles... He loved it, & has been bragging ever since! This year for his b-day (today!), I did a similar thing, only in a mid-sized ice chest. Can't wait to see his face!
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    I once gave my brother a tub of home made cookie dough. He brought it to work and I don't think a single cookie was actually cooked, but apparently the entire tub was devoured within an obscenely short amount of time.
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    When I was dating my wife, (before being my wife...), I surprised her by showing up in a Germany, unbeknownst to her, and having her girlfriend bring her to this bar in town. She was visiting her good ol' German friend. She cried and I knew I was golden; but let me tell ya, I was damn nervous on the plane going over!!

    Another good surprise:
    Take girlfriend to fancy restaurant for birthday, tell her you got some cheep-o earrings. Replace earring with diamond ring. Give to waiter and have him cover in a desert tray and bring out after dinner. GF thinks its a cute way to get her earrings... ;-) (better decide if she say 'yes' beforehand though.)


    Another good surprise idea: I showed up to the altar, (in Jamaica), with my best man in our tuxedos and full fitting rubber Halloween masks. She won't admit it to friends, but she was laughing. We have it on the wedding video. Mike's was a mutant bum and mine was a guy who had the bullet wound on the left and a huge exit wound on the right, (same side where I have a huge scar from brain surgery.)

    =======================

    On a more serious note:

    I took my wife to this place on our first anniversary and about five months after our first baby passed away. Chimayo (This place has reported healing powers. She really appreciated it and it really eased her mind as we tried for our next child. (And wouldn't you know, that VERY night she conceived our next child, now 15 mos. old - our first anniversary. We know that from the temperture readings which are quite accurate.) BTW, there are some really incredible B&B's nearby in Taos and the drive North is one of those scenic by-ways that is really nice.

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    Hmmm... come to think of it, the wife has let me plan two of our vacations from start to end completely - without my telling her what we were doing. She just comes along for the adventure... I research and goto really nice B&B's every couple of days and you don't have to leave the place. Well worth the extra $$. I discovered this by accident. Her first outing after our child passed away was a friends wedding, but since she was up for socializing I got a B&B near-by instead of hotel with the rest of the wedding. Turns out the B&B nearby was one of the celebrated, disgustingly expensive places, but I figured what-the-hell, she deserves a break. Well, wouldn't you know, she LOVED it. So I try to sneak one in on every vacation. Very worth the extra expenses, as you don't need to or want to go anywhere else. Check outthis
    as a starting point.

    Here's one for a B&B in a cave:
    Kokepelli's The wife thought she was going on a hike, but really loved it. We will definitely be back there!!
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    I had two guy friends who got the same surprise ... wife bought a guitar he had been lusting over for years, swapped it into the old case, sent him off to a gig. One of the wives also bought a 1956 Porche Speedster. Not bad.

    A neat personal gift is a batch of hand-written coupons, good for one of ... um ... whatever he finds special. I've done that for my kids before.


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    I finally found a place that sells the golf toy I was trying to think of earlier. This set is surprisingly fun and humorous.

    Arnold Palmer Indoor Golf
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    Dave Lenton
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    Originally posted by kayal cox:
    1. Cactii or bonsai (whichever one is easier to care for)

    I think this is a really good idea. I don't normally like the idea of a standard bunch of flowers, because the things die fairly soon. It just seems a bit of a waste (especially of a living thing). Cactii, bonsai and other potted plants, on the other hand, can live on for ages so its not a waste. Cactii are especially good because they're so easy to look after.... and besides, they're cool

    2. Food, yes! I am sure he would appreciate a batch of assorted cookies, or chocolates.

    This is another really good idea. Cooking something which you know the recipient will like shows that you're happy to put thought and effort into making a personal present. I'd far rather receive my favourite cake then something impersonal like a watch or after shave.

    Above all though, just receiving a present (whatever it is) is often enough to please someone. Like they say, its the thought that counts, and the fact that you thought to get a gift can be the best gift of all.


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    Dave Lenton
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    Originally posted by Solveig Laura Haugland:
    Or a gift like a vacuum cleaner that was actually just what you wanted?

    kayal cox
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    Originally posted by Dave Lenton:

    This is another really good idea. Cooking something which you know the recipient will like shows that you're happy to put thought and effort into making a personal present. I'd far rather receive my favourite cake then something impersonal like a watch or after shave.


    Yesterday, I baked a killer Triple Chocolate Cake for him to take to his office.
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    hell yeah...i like 2 b surprised...in fact am shopping for a XM satellite receiver for my car...if sum1 can surprise me with that, it wud make my day!!!
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    IPod, New Cool Cell Phone are good, but nothing beats home baked goodies.

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    'nothing' might be a bit of an exaggeration. Monica baked 'nothing' ;-)
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    Originally posted by John Dunn:
    'nothing' might be a bit of an exaggeration. Monica baked 'nothing' ;-)

     
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