I'm not from Mars, and I don't like women from Venus. On my planet, these stereotypes are exaggerated, over-simplified generalizations that have little relevance outside of self-help books and afternoon talk shows.
"We're kind of on the level of crossword puzzle writers... And no one ever goes to them and gives them an award." ~Joe Strummer sscce.org
I enjoyed the book. The author repeats himself a lot but makes some great points. I don't think the "stereotypes" in the book are exaggerated or unfair.
My wife and I have read the book and it has really helped our communication. I know that when she is upset about something and shares her troubles with me, she's not blaming me and she's not necessarily asking me to solve her problems, unlike how I normally would expect when someone shares problems with me. She usually just wants to vent to someone that will listen and sympathize. Now, when I'm upset about something, she knows that it's often best to simply leave me alone for a while (to give me what the book calls "cave time") to sort out my thoughts by myself.
If my wife and I didn't understand our communication differences we would both be very frustrated. She would be upset that I never listen to her and I would be upset that she keeps nagging me and won't leave me alone. These are very common complaints between couples that could be helped by recognizing gender "stereotypes" and shifting our protocols when communicating with one another.
I fell into the trap and bought it. Total waste of time and money.
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The author gets a lot of mileage (books and books and books) out of a fairly simple idea. A 60-second explanation of the title is about all you need.
A good question is never answered. It is not a bolt to be tightened into place but a seed to be planted and to bear more seed toward the hope of greening the landscape of the idea. John Ciardi
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I tried to read and got the clear message in first 3-4 chapters.
SO here is the book in nutshell:
1) Venus talks, Mars meep mum. 2) Venus talks loudly, Mars keep mum. 3) Sometime Venus wont talk, Mars talk little. 4) Venus talk again, Mars keep mum. 5) Venus talk, sometimes Mars would not listen. 6) Mars talk, Venus do not listen. 7) Venus talk, Mars keep mum.
So now you all know the secret of happy married life.
"Thanks to Indian media who has over the period of time swiped out intellectual taste from mass Indian population." - Chetan Parekh
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My wife loves the book and I hate it terribly
reason being she expects me to behave exactly like 'man frim mars'
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This will save you the trouble of reading the book:
"Men and women are different. Live with it."
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I have just read the introduction of the book, so this comment might be useless. But this book might not be good. The author is promoting his book himself 100 times just in introduction.
like "after reading this book, you will be like this... you will do like this... you will never fight with your wife... you will be perfect hubby... you will improve your relationship... I have given practical tips... " and again and again the same thing...
So I stopeed this and started Atlas Shrugged. [ July 03, 2006: Message edited by: rathi ji ]
I agree. Here's the link: http://ej-technologies/jprofiler - if it wasn't for jprofiler, we would need to
run our stuff on 16 servers instead of 3.
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