I've been doing a little bit of research in this area. I was wondering if any people here have any personal experience or knowledge of NLP and if they would like to share their opinions. Opinions from my friends seem to vary wildly from "it's like magic" to "it's a load of rubbish". What do you think?
Pounding at a thick stone wall won't move it, sometimes, you need to step back to see the way around.
I was working with a lawyer that 'specialised' in this while completing his degree and he would pass on some pointers. I certainly believe in it as a tool and a skill, but like many topics the evangelists possibly take it too far and add some snake oil.
For example, I believe it is better to say 'be careful' rather than 'don't fall' to a child since the first focuses on saftey and the second can disctract them with the consequence. I believe it is possible to spot a weakness in a argument by looking for use of elements like those pointed out in our falacies doc. I'm not so sure you can perform brainwashing or other feats.
I've seen it work, and it can be powerful, and somehow it also feels a little creepy to me...but I can't really put together a logical argument as to why it feels creppy.
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Joined: Mar 02, 2000
I think it can feel creepy because the potential to use the tools to manipulate someone without them really noticing what you're doing it very strong. Thankfully pretty much every book I've read and the foundation course I just attended focused on using the tools ethically and also around the fact that one of the pre-suppositions of NLP is that you must respect the other person's view of the world. If you're trying to get something out of them that they wouldn't normally give then you're not doing that!