So I was trying to write a little something to expand the fallacy page and I came up with a comment where I'm having a hard time coming up with a good "high road" response.
Here is what I have so far:
Jones: �I thought I read somewhere that the transaction handling on that database was weak.�
Smith: �Jones, I think you're a bit junior to be throwing stumbling blocks in on this decision. I think you'll learn a lot more by simply listening.�
Tricky one! This fallacy is actually a double whammy. We have an Ad Hominem Fallacy and a Pseudo Boss Fallacy.
If you can grab the insult and not throw an insult back, you win the white hat. But grabbing something like that at the spur of the moment can be tricky. If you cannot grab it, the best thing to do would be to just steer the conversation back on track.
High Road #1: �Stumbling blocks? I thought that was the purpose of this meeting. To find stumbling blocks.� Passed on the white hat. Ignored the �shut up� directive and moved the conversation back on track.
High Road #2: �I'm junior? You would think somebody would have sent me a memo or something. Oh well, I'm happy to call myself junior if that makes you comfortable. Now where were we.... Oh yeah, I was talking about transactions and you were talking about stumbling. If you really think this is a stumbling block, maybe this vendor is not a good candidate for us.�
Not so High Road: �If the point is causing a senior engineer to stumble, perhaps I'm not so junior. Would you like me to research the point further?� There's a small stinger here in asserting �I'm not so junior�, but the second part is damage control.
Low Road #1: �If you find you're stumbling on these concepts I can try to use smaller words.�
Low Road #2: �Listening to you stumble over concepts like 'database' hardly sounds like an education.�
Low Road #3: �If you're stumbling and I'm not, wouldn't that mean that you are junior and should be quiet?�
Anybody wanna take a shot at a comeback? Preferably a high road?
"You're right. A person in my position can only do one thing at a time. In this case you are correct - I will listen and not throw, even if I am only expected to listen simply - at least then we will understand each other "
Option three: refuse to hear the insult, and act as if he's just kindlyasked you to name, is specific, technical detail, exactly what you're concerned about. Also, pick up a pencil and start taking notes on the conversation.
seriously, in office bullying tactics are the only choice left sometimes. If the jones guy knows what he is talking about or knows how to back his stuff up he better be a bully if its his a$$ on the line. my 2 cents. [ October 22, 2006: Message edited by: A. Levi ]