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It sounds like you're attempting to attach a Validator to a container element. That doesn't work. Validators can only be applied to individual control elements.
I wrote one of these sorts of validators. It was for the traditional "enter-the-password-twice" control pair. What I had to do was attach it to one of the password controls, which then supplied its value to the validator. For the matching value in the other control, I (the validator) had to retrieve that control from the view tree, get its value, compare to the value passed in and then throw the ValidationException if they didn't match.
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