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amit taneja
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Just wondering...we all java folks should have matrimonial forum here ... where geek marry geek



I am looking for programming girl.. and not finding any good one...

bye the way I am 31, Delhitie, very good looking guy with 7 yrs of exp in j2ee and travelled alot...

any geek girl interested ?

hehe

Cheers

Thanks and Regards, Amit Taneja
Jesper de Jong
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When I started studying electrical engineering, there were 300 new students - 295 boys and 5 girls. Go to any conference about IT and you'll see that there are many more men than women. Unfortunately IT and other technical fields are still very much a world of men - even though there's no reason why women couldn't do these jobs just as well as men.


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You will have to search internationally as well.


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amit taneja
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LOL......

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Hold on... we have sent our man to the moon to find you bride...

Sad, you couldn't find one in the earth
Frank Silbermann
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Jesper de Jong wrote:When I started studying electrical engineering, there were 300 new students - 295 boys and 5 girls. Go to any conference about IT and you'll see that there are many more men than women. Unfortunately IT and other technical fields are still very much a world of men - even though there's no reason why women couldn't do these jobs just as well as men.
In an online article about the "need for more women in IT" I entered a comment suggesting that, even though there were plenty of men available to do the work, many developers have difficulty in the conventional dating scene -- and that we need more women in IT so that these guys could meet women at work. The obnoxious jerks running the site deleted my comment, even though I was the only one to give a reason why more women in IT were _needed_ (as opposed to merely being something that might benefit women).
William P O'Sullivan
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I'm glad you think you are very good looking.

I guess modesty is another of your desirable attributes!

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Randall Twede
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lol william...that was great!

even though there's no reason why women couldn't do these jobs just as well as men.

not exactly true. didn't you read the book "men are from mars, women are from venus"?

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Bill Clar
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Geek 2 Geek might help.
Joe Ess
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I think the best hope for my fellow geeks is to build a bridge with other demographics that are overwhelmingly female, such as nursing. Nurses are, by and large, well educated and career-oriented so there's some common ground. They also tend to be empathetic and outgoing, which could help in a relationship with the typically introverted programmer type.

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fred rosenberger
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I can't help but find all these blatant, sexist stereotypes borderline offensive...


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Frank Silbermann
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fred rosenberger wrote:I can't help but find all these blatant, sexist stereotypes borderline offensive...
It's not so much sexist as occupationist. The advice might be just as good for a gay programmer looking to meet someone with a complementary personality.
Paul Clapham
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I could certainly use one of those gay programmers to make the user interface of my web applications look nicer.

(Okay, how many stereotypes did I manage to squeeze in there?)
Pat Farrell
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Jesper de Jong wrote:When I started studying electrical engineering, there were 300 new students - 295 boys and 5 girls.


Ha, when I started in Engineering school, there were 2000 men and five women.

I don't understand why IT is so male dominated, there is nothing about systems analysis, design, programming or testing that should be better for men. Its not as if we are firemen who have to run into burning buildings and carry two people at a time out of the fire.
Jan de Boer
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Jesper de Jong wrote:When I started studying electrical engineering, there were 300 new students - 295 boys and 5 girls. Go to any conference about IT and you'll see that there are many more men than women. Unfortunately IT and other technical fields are still very much a world of men - even though there's no reason why women couldn't do these jobs just as well as men.


Ah, Jesper, have I got news for you. I am studying Korean. The language yes. I have found out there are thousands of female language students in the same situation! I have about a few hundred hot dates waiting for me. They are all living in Korea or China though... :-(


(I am working with a lot of Korean engineers who cannot speak English very well, so I just thought, try to learn Korean)
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Pat Farrell wrote:I don't understand why IT is so male dominated, there is nothing about systems analysis, design, programming or testing that should be better for men.


At the risk of making another sexist stereotype, I think men are more inclined to have that desire to understand how things work. I know all my life I've been one of those people who would take anything apart just to see how it works. I went to electronics school because it was the only thing I couldn't figure out by taking it apart. Once I had computer hardware mastered, I turned to software because it was the next big mystery.

I've never met a woman who would disassemble a hard drive or a carburetor just to understand how it functions. That seems to be a "guy" thing.

Before I get blasted, I know there are women out there who are great engineers and programmers (I've met a few), and a lot of men who don't know how to open the hood of their car. I'm just making a very general observation based on my own limited experience. It's just a theory.

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Jan de Boer
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Frank Silbermann wrote:many developers have difficulty in the conventional dating scene --


Mwa, it's not solely that ... I have chatted on line with a few girls, from language school, that are complaining they have zero mén in their campus. And I do not think they are ugly. So it's also the ratio boys girls that frustrates them.


(They are from Korea for example. I learn Korean from them, they learn English from me.)



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Pat Farrell wrote:
I don't understand why IT is so male dominated, there is nothing about systems analysis, design, programming or testing that should be better for men.


Do you have children? It's amazing how they self-select gender and behaviorial roles at a very young age. My oldest son (now 7) has been hacking since he could stand. He figured out how to open locked interior doors using the blade of a toy helicopter. We were never able to corral him in a room of the house because he'd figure a way out. For one Christmas, he got a toy kitchen that he used exclusively to store his matchbox cars. My younger boy is even more "typically male", being very sporty (whereas I am not). Their female cousins of the same age want nothing to do with their antics, preferring to play quietly with dolls or coloring books.
Suggesting that men and women are different can end one's career, but let's be honest, they are. It is not "sexist" to state the obvious. As JK said, this doesn't mean that women can't be engineers or men can't be nurses (my second-in-command is a damn good programmer who happens to be female), but to pretend that gender doesn't figure into one's choices, or that some professions are dominated by one gender or another, is simply ignorant.
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Jan de Boer wrote:
Jesper de Jong wrote:When I started studying electrical engineering, there were 300 new students - 295 boys and 5 girls. Go to any conference about IT and you'll see that there are many more men than women. Unfortunately IT and other technical fields are still very much a world of men - even though there's no reason why women couldn't do these jobs just as well as men.


Ah, Jesper, have I got news for you. I am studying Korean. The language yes. I have found out there are thousands of female language students in the same situation! I have about a few hundred hot dates waiting for me. They are all living in Korea or China though... :-(


(I am working with a lot of Korean engineers who cannot speak English very well, so I just thought, try to learn Korean)
Do you have any evidence that the Korean language is one of those which can be learned? I mean, Korean is not Spanish!
Pat Farrell
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Frank Silbermann wrote:Do you have any evidence that the Korean language is one of those which can be learned?


I too have heard that Asian tonal languages are nearly impossible for Americans and western Europeans to learn. Don't have any personal experience....
Pat Farrell
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Joe Ess wrote:Do you have children? It's amazing how they self-select gender and behaviorial roles at a very young age.


One daughter. She never liked dolls, refused to wear a skirt until she moved to NYC as an adult. From the start, she did artistic things. In high school, was exposed to metal-smithing, and from then on, it was hammers and torches.

She did not want to hack code, since both of her parents did that. But its in the genes, and now she earns her living hacking code.
justin smythhe
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I understand what the OP is going through. There are many smart girls out there, but for some reason they don't want to do engineering/IT (why??? )
I hope that you find someone. Meanwhile, some photos that represent this situation...

Nerdiness, while useful at work, can be a real problem as nicely depicted here-


And that leads to-


Some ways to get out of it-

Dress well and have style-


Party-


HUMOR- A BIG PLUS!!!



Good Luck


justin smythhe
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Hopefully, the OP will end up like this-
Rameshwar Soni
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Since Justin has started posting a lot of good images, i think he is the next Bear Bibeault of CodeRanch
Jan de Boer
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Frank Silbermann wrote: Do you have any evidence that the Korean language is one of those which can be learned? I mean, Korean is not Spanish!


Well... Let me state that now I am learning Korean, I understand why they have so many problems learning English. It is not like any Indo-European language. It is even very different from Chinese and Japanese. It has a phonetic writing system though. But the good thing is, when you even know it just a little, people are really impressed.
 
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