I plus Ben here. You cannot really learn them, and if you do, you commit a little treason to your own person. I am perfectly aware of my faults in social skills. I am a rebel, during conversation I say things that are considered very funny and amusing by most, but insulting by some. Mostly I pull the legs of the management. Especially in a hierarchic company, I am considered an unpredictable danger. I try to behave myself, but if I
censor myself, I feel deathly unhappy, and I don't say much at all. I am terrible in neutral polite conversation, and have been for 20 years. It's not going to change I think.