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I resigned a job last week. To be polite, I said so to my boss "keep contact and hope we may work together in the future" though I didn't really intend to come back. My boss' reaction was "Congratulation on your new job. Yeah, but I hope when you decide to come back it is because this is really a better choice for you, not just because you like to come back"

My interpretation is -- He doesn't really want me to come back. What do you think ?
 
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Why does it matter if you don't intend to go back?
 
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Originally posted by Gregg Bolinger:
Why does it matter if you don't intend to go back?



+1, 10 yrs in professional life, Never made any friends nor enemies. Thats why they are called as colleagues not friends. I could care less about their opinions if it has nothing to do with work related.
 
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maybe he indeed thinks you're making a poor decision, it's possible.
 
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Originally posted by Raj Ohadi:
I resigned a job last week. To be polite, I said so to my boss "keep contact and hope we may work together in the future" though I didn't really intend to come back. My boss' reaction was "Congratulation on your new job. Yeah, but I hope when you decide to come back it is because this is really a better choice for you, not just because you like to come back"

My interpretation is -- He doesn't really want me to come back. What do you think ?



Your boss is straight. He sensed that although you said you may come back, you didn't intend to do so. It's natural to respond "Well, don't come back unless you think it would be a good decision". That's what your boss said. In a less subtle way, it should have been "Why are you hoping to do something that you don't like?"
 
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Originally posted by Raj Ohadi:
I resigned a job last week. To be polite, I said so to my boss "keep contact and hope we may work together in the future" though I didn't really intend to come back. My boss' reaction was "Congratulation on your new job. Yeah, but I hope when you decide to come back it is because this is really a better choice for you, not just because you like to come back"

My interpretation is -- He doesn't really want me to come back. What do you think ?



I think, your ex-boss was pretty straight. He wants you only if company deserves you and not because you don't have any other option...
 
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I think your Boss was very much right and was saying that "be professional" and back only if you find this place better. Dont come for me(he might not be there itself).
 
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