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I have been teasing my brother about his thinning hair, but I think he is starting to feel bad about it and I feel baaaadddd about giving him a hard time about it. Is this really something that men get offended about? Now, I have to make it up to him. Any ideas? other than buying him a bottle of Jack Daniels?
 
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Lucetta Pryor wrote:Is this really something that men get offended about?


That is ofcourse a generalizing question. Some men will be offended by it, others won't. My hair is also thinning (I'm 43) but I don't mind, I don't find it anything that's important enough to worry about.
 
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I agree with Jesper. Some men will be more sensitive about getting older than others. As far as how to make it up to him, that's going to depend on the relationship between you and your brother. And how you normally deal with such issues.
 
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In my experience, hair is something that most men freak out about when they start losing it. I don't know why -- I must've missed that gene (along with the "likes sports" gene).

Personally, when my hair started thinning back in the 80's, I just started buzzing it all off. Then about a decade ago, I just started shaving it completely off. I love it. No hair means no worrying about hair.



If he's really freaking out about it, send him to SlyBaldGuys; especially if he starts talking about plugs, drugs or rugs!
 
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Bear Bibeault wrote:No hair means no worrying about hair.


Your beard and mustache disagree .
 
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face fur !== hair
 
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Jesper de Jong wrote:

Lucetta Pryor wrote:Is this really something that men get offended about?


That is ofcourse a generalizing question. Some men will be offended by it, others won't. My hair is also thinning (I'm 43) but I don't mind, I don't find it anything that's important enough to worry about.



My brother is only 36. So, he is losing his hair early?

Anyway, he used to tease me about my weight. Now that I've lost a lot of weight, he can't tease me anymore ... maybe that is why he is feeling bad. I hope.
 
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36 is not early for the onset of male pattern baldness.
 
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Bear Bibeault wrote:36 is not early for the onset of male pattern baldness.



I realized that. I found videos on youtube about hair treatments and found that many are within his age. I am going to show this to my brother. At least I wont have to spend to make him feel better ... lol
 
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My idea is that men are far more vain than most people think. They care about their appearance, but it is girlish to admit that.

I would hate to lose my hair. But I also have a thin face with a big nose and ears. Being bold would look really ugly on me. I am very vain. (Though perhaps not the most relevant prototype of men..?) I even refuse cake in the office when there is a birthday, or beer when there is a party to keep my six pack. Not doing the eating drinking socializing is not very beneficial for your career though.
 
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Lucetta, maybe you can cheer your brother up by saying boldness is a sign of masculinity. I think it has to do with testosterone, and bold men have more of that and hence are .. better lovers. I don't know if that is true or an urban legend though.
 
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Jan de Boer wrote:Lucetta, maybe you can cheer your brother up by saying boldness is a sign of masculinity. . . .

There is no way a woman can say such things to her brother.
 
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Lucetta Pryor wrote:

Bear Bibeault wrote:36 is not early for the onset of male pattern baldness.



I realized that. I found videos on youtube about hair treatments and found that many are within his age. I am going to show this to my brother. At least I wont have to spend to make him feel better ... lol


My youngest (half) brother started losing his hair before he was 20. Ran into him at a funeral. He made a comment on my age, and I relied that I at least still had my hair. Best comeback ever.

Now in my mid 50s and still have all the hair I had as a teen. I have to confess, though, that it started greying when I was quite young. Wife was pulling them out, and I had to slap her hands. Told her I was going to need that hair when I got older. Men don't care about color or style -- we just want hair.
 
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Not all men, though. I know many guys who shave their scalp even though they could have a full head of hair if they wanted to. And as I already said, I revel in being clean-shaven. I never liked my hair when I had it, and I said good riddance when it was gone.

True, most men would opt to have hair, but not all.
 
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Bear Bibeault wrote:True, most men would opt to have hair, but not all.


+1

I'd have shaved my head years ago, but my wife doesn't want me to. And I have a full head of hair.
 
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Jan de Boer wrote:Lucetta, maybe you can cheer your brother up by saying boldness is a sign of masculinity. . . .

There is no way a woman can say such things to her brother.



Ah you do not know my little sister!

Although I must say, she probably does not count. I have a younger step-sister. When we were teens, she lived with her mom and my dad. I lived with my mom. So we were neither blood related, nor part of the same 'social' family.
 
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Jan de Boer wrote: . . . Ah you do not know my little sister! . . .

She is probably only saying such things to annoy you.
 
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Hi, Lucetta. I think, you are really worried about teasing your brother. Sounds so funny but honestly, to get serious with it. So nice of you that you are willing to help your brother with his hair problems. I guess, what you found out online might be the best way to make him feel better:)
 
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Lucetta Pryor wrote:Any ideas? other than buying him a bottle of Jack Daniels?


Yes - get him a real whiskey! Something like Glenrothes, for example.
 
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Lucetta Pryor wrote:I have been teasing my brother about his thinning hair, but I think he is starting to feel bad about it and I feel baaaadddd about giving him a hard time about it. Is this really something that men get offended about? Now, I have to make it up to him. Any ideas? other than buying him a bottle of Jack Daniels?



I guess your brother is unmarried that's why he is getting offended. Men believe girls like thick hair boys or thick hair boys looks more attractive.
 
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The stock response to male pattern baldness is that it's an indicator of high testosterone levels, so if you want a real stud, don't go for the ones with the thick hair.

Some people start going bald in their late teens. When I got married, age 25, my formerly identical cousin was already almost bald. It took me a few years to get to that point.

I'm pretty sure I could get a lot of benefit from Rogaine, but it was never worth the trouble.
 
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Lucetta Pryor wrote:I have been teasing my brother about his thinning hair, but I think he is starting to feel bad about it and I feel baaaadddd about giving him a hard time about it. Is this really something that men get offended about? Now, I have to make it up to him. Any ideas? other than buying him a bottle of Jack Daniels?



I guess your brother is unmarried that's why he is getting offended. Men believe girls like thick hair boys or thick hair boys looks more attractive.



Hmm, that's an interesting thought. I have a few friends that are either bald or almost-bald. I think the married friends never complained about their baldness and react okay to the "bald" jokes. However the other friend, which is now maybe 55 and unmarried, really hates when you say any "bald" joke.
 
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Note to the MPB-ers: shave your head. Whether you're inclined to the ladies or guys, a shaved head is a magnet. A comb-over is exactly the opposite. And for Pete's sake, if you are going to keep what hair you have left, keep it neat! Nothing makes you look more like you've given up than a Bozo ring!
 
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Bear Bibeault wrote: . . . A comb-over is exactly the opposite. . . .

You have obviously seen Gregor Fisher as the Baldy Man.
 
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Campbell Ritchie wrote:You have obviously seen Gregor Fisher as the Baldy Man.


I hadn't. But yeah -- that's horrific.
 
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26 here and going bald. So long as my face stubble doesn't start falling out I'm cool with shaving the top. Just let me keep the beard. It's a lot easier to keep a bowling ball clean than a mop anyhow.

Disclaimer: I'll admit that at age 19 I had a ponytail to my shoulders...then over the next 3 years the balding hit like lightning.
 
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Girls. Isn't Story Musgrave sexier without hair? Matter settled.

http://themancave-rayc.blogspot.com/2011/11/story-musgrave-md.html

 
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