The secret of how to be miserable is to constantly expect things are going to happen the way that they are "supposed" to happen.
You can have faith, which carries the understanding that you may be disappointed. Then there's being a willfully-blind idiot, which virtually guarantees it.
Getting married means "We're in love, so let's tell the police!" - and invite this tiny ad to the wedding:
a bit of art, as a gift, the permaculture playing cards